Most of us let our negative emotions persist longer than it’s necessary. Becoming angry makes us stay angry. This actively produces the feeling of pain and regret; recalling an insult or rehearsing what you should have said to the other. We do not notice we are doing these processes and continually resurrecting the feelings of fear, sadness and doubt.
You can learn not to stay angry for very long. Meditation can easily help in the learning. Imagine you are angry, then you receive a call that requires you to be your best self, notice how quickly you shift to the new required act. Or, when you are sad then hear a joke and you easily chuckle or smile moving from anger to joy but often switch back to negative emotions at the next opportunity. These are natural experiences in shifting moods. Noticing and paying attention to something else, changing the state of mind. However, we shouldn’t wait for some pleasant distraction to shift moods, we can pay close attention to negative feelings without judgment and resistance. Ask yourself what is anger? where does it come from? Where do you feel it in your body? These questions with mindfulness help get rid of negative states of mind.
“Learn to observe your emotions without needing to act or distract yourself from them. Within that stillness, your truest most vulnerable thoughts will arise and it is these thoughts that will show you where your healing work must begin.” Alaric H