“Men can starve from a lack of self-realization as much as they can from a lack of bread.” Richard Wright
People have power over us since we try to find pieces of us in them. Pieces’ we’ve lost, given away, or had taken away. When someone comes into your life who has that piece intact, you’ll be drawn to them like a magnet since your energy body recognizes the desired pieces’.
Gregg Branden beautifully interprets a parable of Jesus about a woman walking down the road carrying a jar full, it broke, and she didn’t know it broke slowly spilling. When she got home and wanted to feed the family, the pot was empty. The jar symbolizes us and the food in the jar, our love. Through our lives, we lose pieces of our love, through compromise either given out or taken away, and a point comes when you need to give love either to self or others, but we realize there’s no love left to share in the capacity we’d like to. This point should be the beginning of your journey to reclaim back your love. If you don’t know or realize this, it can be degrading in terms of maladaptive coping techniques such as alcohol and drugs, or dysfunctional relationships, and we become victims of our circumstances.
“When you have a good heart: You help too much. You trust too much. You give too much. You love too much, and it always seems you hurt the most.” Nishan Panwar
It’s always good to ask yourself what you think you’ve lost and would want to regain to feel complete and not to compensate with other people. They can be qualities you aspire such as self-confidence, desire to be someone significant in society, or even physical attributes in a case the other has taken good care of themselves. Asking yourself what you feel is lacking will bring you the right answers in time.
Explanation; having a long relationship with someone who complimented the pieces you lacked will help you regain and rebuild the said pieces. Over-time once healed; we begin to drift away from them since we already got what we lacked that drew us to them. We then mistake our becoming whole with falling out of love, which is tragic.
Being aware helps you to live life with a clarity not blindly searching for something you don’t know about, hence no success in finding the thing. It allows us to keep relationships, jobs, and goals with content and clarity.
“You’ve got to find yourself first, everything else will follow.” Charles De Lint