One of the most heard things when it comes to parenting – say goodbye to sleep! Babies are not used to our modern lifestyle, eight hours of sleep, then three full meals a day, two hours of TV, etc. They are hardly used to living as it is, and it is the parents’ duty to teach them things.
This, of course, requires one to sacrifice one’s old routines and realities; however, finding balance is an art built on communication. As soon as Adam went to r/Amithe, a couple were struggling with it[Jerk] subreddit to figure out if she was wrong for refusing to wake up to take care of her baby due to work commitments.
It’s certainly interesting, so stick around to the end to see what the internet community has to say about all of this, and leave your thoughts in the comments below! If you crave more stories like this, Bored Panda You have it covered with a link to an article here. Now let’s jump in!
When you’re a parent, one of the first things you have to sacrifice is quality sleep, but sometimes that just isn’t possible.
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A man decided to ask the online community if he was wrong to refuse to wake up to nurse his baby because his wife started struggling.
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Sleep, as ironic as it sounds, is one of the most pleasant things to experience. We dream of them the moment we are about to leave our beds. Soft pillows and heavy blankets contrast with cold floors and hard tables. However, sometimes we have to sacrifice our beautiful breaks because of our responsibilities.
One of them is a little bundle of joy, clinging to the threads of understanding what life is all about. Getting used to this new world can be a bit of a challenge as you are given food, sleep and warmth in the not so long ago mother’s womb. So sleep suffers for those who are used to it.
But a new father agreed with his wife before they had children that he couldn’t make that kind of commitment because his performance as an athlete would suffer too much from lack of sleep. What seemed reasonable at first turned into a bit of a disagreement after the baby was born.
The father wondered – was he wrong to refuse to wake up at night and help his wife take care of the baby? He decided to ask r/AmIthe[Jerk] Community for advice and they delivered.
Insomnia is when you can’t get the sleep you need. According to Eric Suni of the Sleep Foundation, lack of sleep directly affects how we think and feel. Although the short-term effects are more noticeable, chronic sleep deprivation can increase the risk of long-term physical and mental health problems.
Interestingly, even if a person gets the recommended eight hours of sleep, it doesn’t mean they wake up well-rested. Multiple awakenings that break up a person’s sleep can lead to a lack of sleep, and when it comes to having a baby, this will certainly happen.
Feeling overly tired during the day, slow thinking, poor or risky decision-making, and mood swings, including stress, anxiety, or irritability, are some of the consequences of a lack of quality sleep. However, long-term sleep deprivation can lead to cardiovascular disease, diabetes, hormonal abnormalities, and body aches.
But you can’t tell your newborn that he needs to calm down, shut up, and let mommy and daddy get eight hours of sleep, right? There is no doubt that this will be beneficial.
Nina from Sleeping Should Be Easy recommends new parents try these strategies for coping with sleep deprivation, starting with keeping life as simple as possible. Now is not the time to complete a million tasks or keep up with your exercise routine. If you’re already short on sleep, save your energy for when it matters and accept that life will be chaotic and a little dirtier.
Next, create an inviting sleeping environment. Turn your room black, add white noise to drown out newborn sounds, and even make your bed. Try to cut back on caffeine later in the day, as it can keep you from falling asleep when you’re desperately trying to sleep.
Finally, focus on your basic needs as a human being. Yes, you want to give everything you can to take care of the newborn as well as the home; However, you need to take care of yourself. So make sure you sleep as a baby, eat and drink regularly, and go for walks to get some fresh air and exercise.
Most importantly, ask for help when you need it. Many of us have friends and family willing to babysit, and if the budget allows, consider hiring help as well. Night nurses can help during the difficult hours of the night, especially when it comes to the situations we’re discussing today, where both parents simply can’t commit to the same amount of time during the night.
The couple seems to have come to a consensus, finding a few solutions that work for both of them. Communication solves everything, right? Now, for those who think the guy should swallow it and offer to help out a few nights a week, there’s research to back up his argument for sleep.
Current evidence suggests that sleep optimization can have a significant impact on athletic performance. Improving sleep duration and quality improves reaction time, accuracy and endurance performance. In addition, poor sleep can increase the risk of injury and illness, reduce exercise capacity, and impair overall health.
Given what we talked about earlier about sleep disorder and its direct effects on the body and mind, it is not difficult to understand the man’s position, especially when his career allows the family to hire the help they need around the house. Hopefully, they continue to be each other’s support system on this roller coaster we call life.
But let us know your thoughts and opinions in the comments – did dad make a mistake after all? What would you do differently? Before that, be sure to read the opinions of fellow citizens who made their decision – this person is not bad after all. I hope you have a great day off and I’ll see you next time!